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Healing From Hustle Culture & Embodying Feminine Energy with Kim Boyd
What happens when we shift our focus from external beauty to inner transformation? In this illuminating conversation, Kim Boyd, founder of Zen Blend Wellness in Arlington, TX reveals her remarkable journey from aesthetics specialist to holistic wellness advocate.
Kim shares how her business evolution mirrored her personal awakening. What began as "Kaptivating Kurves" – focused on body contouring and external beautification – transformed into a holistic wellness center after a profound realization: true beauty manifests naturally when we heal from within.
This episode delves into practical tools for nervous system regulation that anyone can use, including tapping (EFT), breathwork, and occasional cold exposure. Kim explains how these accessible techniques can help release trauma and replace limiting beliefs – essentially "recalibrating your entire existence through your mind, body, and nervous system." She also shares how the innovative AO Scanner at her wellness center provides quantifiable measurements of energetic shifts, allowing clients to see tangible results.
Perhaps most powerful is Kim's approach to feminine energy and self-love. Rather than just repeating affirmations, she advocates embodiment – actually living as if you already love yourself by changing your habits, social circle, and how you treat yourself and others. Her "Healing from Hustle" program and "Five-Day Feminine Energy Reset" guide women away from the masculine energy of constant productivity toward the feminine art of receiving.
Ready to break free from old stories and patterns? Kim's parting wisdom resonates deeply: "You are not stuck. You are not a tree." Discover how embracing your feminine energy and regulating your nervous system can transform not just how you look, but how you experience life itself.
hey, welcome to dfw conscious creators. My name is nisha and joining us today in the studio is the delightful Kim Boyd, founder of Zenblend Wellness in Arlington. Hi, hey, kim, how are you? I'm good, I'm good. Thank you for having me. I am so excited to have you today because I feel like we have been on pause on a conversation that we started. Last week. I was at Zen Blend Wellness and, first of all, it's a very charming and very like energetically comforting space. I could feel the change in energy as soon as I walked in.
Speaker 2:Thank you for that.
Speaker 1:And I accidentally walked into the business next door. So it was definitely like a very vast shift in energy. So it was a great space. You gave me an amazing facial. Like my skin has never felt so clean or looked so glowy. It was a great experience and while I was there, you were saying to me that you didn't just wake up one day and decide to start Zenblend Right. So I told you to pause because I could feel a really great story about your journey coming on and I wanted to save that so we could share a little bit of that journey with everyone.
Speaker 2:Okay, what I really meant by that was I didn't just wake up one day and decide that this was my purpose, that I was going to just open up Zen Blend Wellness. That wasn't how that went. It was a progression. It was every day that I was learning more about me, every day that I was healing me, every day that I was healing me, every day that I was putting in the work to raise my consciousness and just yeah, and then one day I woke up and it didn't even start out as zen blend.
Speaker 1:No wellness.
Speaker 2:it was captivating curves and I concentrated mostly on aesthetics. So body contouring, mostly on aesthetics. So body contouring, teeth whitening, facials, vacuum therapy, a lot of stuff like that, and it was basically just aesthetics. And the more that I started to see different girls from different walks of life and they would come in to me and they would be like I want you to fix this piece and that and make this look like this, and I was like like you're beautiful, like what's wrong, why?
Speaker 2:don't you already and it started to resonate with me because I was like I'm like that too. You know, I'm always wanting to fix something physically.
Speaker 1:But I think as women, you know that's, it's such a narrative that's embedded into us from a young age from media. You know that we are seeking this visually pleasing aesthetic, are a certain version of what beautiful is.
Speaker 2:Right, but what I didn't know is that the more you work on yourself on the inside, the more beautiful you become on the outside, and that was something that I didn't know. So once that got embedded into me, I was like, oh my gosh, I can help other people. Oh my gosh, like I can make you feel exactly how I feel, because I don't feel like there's anything that I need to change because of how much work I've done on the inside and that's really important, um, because you start to see the real you, and the real you is beautiful Like, but a lot of people don't really know that because they're really looking on the outside.
Speaker 1:So that's such a good point and that's so powerful, you know, feeling so embodied in yourself and so whole and having so much self-love for yourself that you don't feel the need to change anything. It's such a powerful place that I know a lot of not just women, but anybody I think everybody is seeking to get to that place of wholeness and completion. What would you say was the catalyst for you from going to a space of feeling like, oh, I need to fix this and this and this about myself, to then transforming to a place where you felt that sense of completion and not needing to change things?
Speaker 2:The actual realization of real self-love. Because we can say it all the time in our culture right now there's affirmations and there's mirror work and you know all these different things, a gazillion modalities and until it actually clicks, because you can repeat it over and over again, but until you actually feel it, until it's something that you actually can resonate with and actually love yourself for who you are and take a look at who you are and love that person, flaws and all. That's when it. That's when it clicked. That's when I was like okay, this is it. Because I was no longer looking for validation from anybody, um, even myself, I was like all that, all those things I thought I needed, it wasn't important anymore. And so, um, that's the day that it actually clicked, when, when self-love was real for me, because it it was just something that I was saying right, it was just another affirmation I love myself, you know we're in the mirror and doing the you know they say do the work, and we're like what's the work?
Speaker 2:you know, and then that's the word. And once you actually, once you actually feel it and you'll know it. You know it. When you feel it it's a knowing, it's not, you know, you don't feel like an imposter, you don't feel like you're just, you know, lying to yourself anymore. And when you actually feel it, then that's when everything switched for me. I was like okay, we're jumping in, we're ahead first.
Speaker 1:Was there something that changed for you, that allowed you? Would you say that? I know with affirmations one of the biggest things is you don't always believe it at first and I know it can take time because I'm a big believer in affirmations but been doing them for seven years so it took time for the affirmations to come easily. Would you say on your journey that it's been more about allowing time for things to change, or were there certain catalyzing moments that happened to help like propel you into this place of self love and acceptance?
Speaker 2:It was almost a belief in it, in right Like, so I didn't start at okay, let's do these affirmations. I literally started from like that place of if I love myself, how do I treat me right, how do I talk to?
Speaker 1:me.
Speaker 2:How do I interact with the people that I say that I love? And I just started embodying that person, instead of me saying, oh, I love myself. You know, I'm looking in the mirror and saying I love myself. I just started embodying that person that loves herself, so I started doing all the things that that person would do.
Speaker 2:So what were those things for you Hot yoga was one of the first ones. I was like that had to be one of the first things that started it. I was like, if I loved myself, what would my hobbies be Like? What would you know like? How would I treat my daughter? How would I treat my friends? How would I treat my family? What would I ingest? What kind of things would I? What kind of supplements would I take? What kind of food would I eat? What kind of people would I want to be around? And I just kept doing that and every day it was like I would do something different that was completely out of my comfort zone, just to prove to myself that, hey, you say that you love yourself.
Speaker 2:If you love yourself then do the things that you would do if you loved yourself. And it just kept going and before I knew it, I had all these new habits.
Speaker 2:And I had all these new people in my life and new friends, right, New connections, New connections. And then I just woke up one day and I was like it's not a, I'm not, I don't feel like I'm an imposter anymore. And then I just woke up one day and I was like it's not a, I'm not. I don't feel like I'm an imposter anymore. I don't feel like I'm just saying the affirmations just because I don't feel like I'm just doing now, because I've started living as the person who loves herself. I really do.
Speaker 1:That is so powerful. I think you just very beautifully summed up one of the most important parts of manifesting a happy life or anything you want in life is when you talked about embodiment and starting to actually do the actions. I think a lot of times when we're thinking about like manifestation and our vibration, that we get, you know, kind of complacent, into relying on just the affirmations or just the visualization or just you know modalities and not necessarily making sure that the rest of our lives are aligned with that vision. But it sounds like you actually were very intentional in the actions that you were taking, in the places that you were putting yourself in and the people you were surrounding yourself in, because I feel like all of that contributes to your vibration. Like vibration to me is like it's almost like an equation, right, and it's like all of these little things and habits habits is a big word that you said All of these little habits essentially add up and equal our vibration and you know that alignment to what it is that we desire.
Speaker 2:Right, and I believe that that's one of the things that I help to teach. I like to believe that that's one of the things that I help to teach is because embodiment, it's the major. And you say you use the word manifestation and for me it wasn't even just about um manifestation, it was literally about being someone else. I knew that I didn't like the person that I had become and I knew that it was time to to be somebody different. And I just, yeah, I, I knew what it was going to take. So I guess you can say I did manifest into somebody else.
Speaker 1:I love that. I think it's a really unique way to view it and we were talking a little bit about this. You know, before the show, when it comes to you know the story that we tell ourselves and like that life narrative that we are living out and how important the words that we are, that we're speaking to ourselves and how all of that contributes. So at that point in your story where you're accepting, you know, accepting yourself, and coming to this place of self-love, had you already started your business or what was it that kind of propelled your the business was was captivating curves.
Speaker 2:Um, when I started the journey because I was like I said, I started to see people that really needed that, what was your like initial motivation behind captivating curves?
Speaker 2:I started out as a massage therapist and I started going to school for all these different things, um. So I took a um you know, you do your CEUs and I started going for all kinds of different stuff. And I went for um body sculpting and we were using like the lipo cavitation and lasers and all kinds of stuff like that. And it was just interesting to me and I think that, moreover, because I didn't like massage therapy as much, as I started to like body contouring, because you don't have to be quiet during body contouring, doing a massage, it's like so what kind of work do you do? And they're like no, like we're not talking. This is me, yeah, and so you, you, um, I like to talk, obviously. And so that was like okay, we have to figure something else out.
Speaker 2:And then, doing body contouring, I started to like meet all these different people, all these different girls, and they were like so cool. And I was like, okay, well, this is, I think this is what I'll do. And after the internship, I just went straight into doing it myself and that's how I started Captivating Carries. It was really on a whim. It was like oh, let's see how this works, because I get to talk during these sessions and so. But then I'm glad that I did do that, because had I not, I wouldn't have discovered this, I wouldn't have discovered the holistic part of it, I wouldn't have discovered, you know, how many broken people there were and how many people that could help that's so powerful, that played such a big part in your journey, and it's those moments of you know struggling are like unfolding that ultimately lead us to our purpose.
Speaker 1:I think and I know that you said you were getting like a lot of broken people or people who weren't necessarily seeing their self-worth or like the beauty that was absolute within them, but that was something that you could see. Was there a moment that catalyzed you to make the shift from creative curves to Zen blend wellness?
Speaker 2:There was. It was literally the moment that I did a Yoni Steam party and I called it the Mooney Misses, right, we were doing our full moon. I was like, okay, and I did not expect, I expected like three or four people to show up, right. But because you know, as I'm going through this journey, as I'm learning about myself, every client that comes in the door, I'm, you know, pouring into them too. I'm like, girl, let me tell you about this thing, Let me tell you about this. And so when we did the Mooney Mrs thing and that was just something I was doing on the side, just because I was interested in, you know, doing you- know it was something you enjoyed.
Speaker 2:Yeah, shadow work and general prompts and stuff on a full moon. That was just something I was interested in. And so I was like, listen, how many people will do it with me? And all these people showed up and I was like, wait a minute, you know. And I was like wait a minute, like I wasn't expecting that many people, but so many people showed up and I was like this is this, is it Like? This is what I'm supposed to be doing, this is the message that I'm supposed to be sharing and it. After that, I just I couldn't. I couldn't unsee it Right, it was that kind of thing. I couldn't unsee it. And I saw me in my element. I saw me. I mean, I was like on fire, you know, and it was like as soon as they would ask me a question.
Speaker 2:It was like my brain would just go, you know, and I knew the answer right away. You know, you were like in a flow state. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:It, yeah, yeah, it was. It felt natural. It felt like breathing. I think that's the way that business should feel when we are aligned with our purpose. It's just something that almost organically flows through us yeah, it was, it was.
Speaker 2:I mean, I could feel the hairs on my arms standing up when I was like talking, and I was like this is it. And I said to myself talking, and I was like this is it. And I said to myself this is it, this is what you're supposed to be doing. And just to see the reaction from the people that attended that particular workshop and I would you know, these people would just break down crying. They had broke down so many different barriers and blockages and things that they didn't even know, you know, and just to watch that, like I said, I couldn't unsee it.
Speaker 1:It sounds like it was a deeply fulfilling experience.
Speaker 2:Absolutely, and I just dropped everything.
Speaker 1:I was like nope, this is what I'm doing now Was it like a right-of-way decision, like I have to stop doing yeah, absolutely, and transition to. I woke up the next morning trying to figure out a name.
Speaker 2:I woke up the next morning going changing this, what's the name? I woke up the next morning trying to figure out a name Because I did not want to even participate and you know it was like I'm done. I'm done with that part of my life. Close that chapter, let's go, let's do something else.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's so beautiful, but it was also a very important chapter that helped unfold.
Speaker 2:Yeah purpose because I wouldn't have ever. I wouldn't have ever known that that was it. I wouldn't have known that was my purpose for my calling unless I had, you know, met all these people who needed my help. I didn't even know I had the help to give. You know it took for me to learn some stuff about me yeah, that's deep right.
Speaker 1:Sometimes there are things innately inside of you that you don't realize that you have until other people are reflecting that back at you.
Speaker 1:Right, right, and I really love that you found that purpose and that gift in doing the body contouring and the beauty work, because I think we were also talking earlier about how you don't necessarily have to be doing specific types of modality or work to be a healer. Like you're somebody who has such a bright light that I feel like you could literally like work in a bowling alley and you would still be hoping to heal people just from the interaction that you have with them. I'm sure I love people.
Speaker 2:I, I love people. It's new, this is new for me, but I love people, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's so beautiful. So let's talk a little bit about this new purpose that you have stepped into. So it's like you saw the vision. You had a calling. You woke up the next morning and decided to start thinking of names. What was the new direction for this business in terms of who you want to serve and how you want to serve them?
Speaker 2:It was definitely holistic. That's all I kept seeing is the word holistic, and I don't know why, but it just kept coming up and I was like, well, what does that really mean? Because so many people have different definitions of what holistic really means. That's very true. And so I was like, well, what does holistic mean for me? And the only thing that I could think of was we're going to use your mind, your brain, your body, your nervous system to recalibrate your entire existence. Right?
Speaker 1:Is that something that just came to you when you asked yourself that question? Say that again.
Speaker 2:We're going to use your brain, your body and your nervous system to recalibrate your entire existence. Wow, that is so deep and I think it's important because a lot of like we said, you know, with all of the stories that we've told ourselves throughout the years, a lot of people really don't know that they can change at any moment. You know, and that's why I work with nervous system, you know, regulation, tapping and breath work, Because a lot of people don't realize that you can really completely rewire yourself just by regulating your nervous system. And there's so many ways, there's so many modalities. You can just choose one.
Speaker 2:You know, you can cold plunges.
Speaker 1:There's so many things you can do that's so true, and I feel like this is the kind of stuff that they don't teach you about in school never and so many people are suffering right now from anxiety, depression, loneliness, disconnection, and a lot of times, people just aren't aware that there are actual tools that you can use that make life so much easier, like you don't have to sit in your car having a panic attack. Because I used to be that person, I feel like I used to suffer a lot from anxiety because I didn't know that there were tools that could be used that weren't like medication. You know what I mean. I feel like we very much grew up in an era where medication just started being pushed to kids right away without necessarily exploring any of these more holistic approaches Exactly, exactly and that was another thing is that I was on anxiety meds and one day I was just like I'm not taking these anymore.
Speaker 2:One day I was just like I'm not taking these anymore. I was just like I'm not taking these anymore. So, whatever, whatever happens we're going to see what happens and I started to notice that I could regulate my nervous system and I was like that's a thing, like I thought that I needed these medicines you know, and once I started doing it myself, I started teaching my daughter how to do it.
Speaker 2:You know, I started teaching my daughter how to do it. You know, I started teaching my friends how to do it. And yeah, if you regulate your nervous system, you can change your entire life.
Speaker 1:That's so powerful and, yeah, that resonates. I feel like a lot of people resonate with that story of being put on medication and not necessarily feeling like that was the right solution for them. And that's no knock on medication, like please, you know, see your doctors take medication if it's right for you, but there are people where it's that's not necessarily the right solution and there are other options, and I think it's a beautiful thing that you're teaching this to your daughter, that children are getting access to these tools now, and I'd love you to share, like, what are some of your top go-to tools if you are like dealing with anxiety?
Speaker 2:um, tapping is my number one go-to because that's something I can do anywhere, that's something I can do in the car. You know, I can easily just start tapping in the car.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love tapping so much and for anybody who doesn't know, can you explain a little bit more about tapping?
Speaker 2:So tapping. What that does to your nervous system is so, when you're tapping on yourself and you're telling yourself something, a limited belief, right? So let's say, you always thought you weren't worthy of something. And your nervous system, when you're telling yourself I'm worthy, and you're tapping, your body's trying to pay attention to the tapping right, so it can feel that you're tapping. Your body knows that you're tapping on it. But you're also saying I am worthy, I am worthy. So now that it's trying to pay attention to the tapping, the I am worthy that you're saying over and over again just gets stuck in your subconscious now, because you're not conscious of saying it, because you're only conscious of the tap. So it helps to regulate your nervous system because now your subconscious believes it and that makes you believe it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love, love that I'm such a big fan of EFT. That's something that I once met a hypnotist who had been working with people for like over 50 years, like he was old school, and he was telling me that um, over hypnotherapy, over Reiki, over any other modality, that he really um favored EFT because it was something that could very quickly, like on the spot, release trauma from the body, just going into, I think there's like a meridian flow system very similar to like acupuncture. So having that like energetic release on a physical level can reinforce those affirmations, I think. Because, like we were saying earlier, sometimes you can say an affirmation and it just doesn't ring true and it doesn't feel good and we can get frustrated or disenchanted because of that. But I think EFT is kind of or like tapping, is kind of like a little cheat code.
Speaker 2:Yeah, for sure it's a cheat code to affirmations. If there is one, that's it. That's a cheat code. Yeah for sure.
Speaker 1:Yeah, thank you so much for sharing that. Are there any other kind of go-tos that you have in terms of nervous system regulation?
Speaker 2:The deep breathing, breathing the inhale for four, oh, seven, exhale for eight. I love that. Um, I don't really like cold plunges but I will do an alcohol shower sometimes, just because I know like if there's like there was one day I was feeling like super overstimulated. Um, there was a lot going on and it wasn't a bad thing, I didn't feel bad overstimulated. It was just too many things going on and I just cut on the shower on all cold and just got under it for a couple of seconds and I remember it was just like a pfft. It happened so quick. I was like, oh, I'm back. You know, yeah, it's definitely like a. It happened so quick. I was like, oh, I'm back, you know?
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's definitely like a shock to the system. Yeah, oh my God, I did a cold plunge once and yeah my system literally went into shock.
Speaker 2:I couldn't stay in, but I do understand why. You know I understand why we should. I'm just not a fan, but it does work.
Speaker 1:Yeah good, I'm just not a fan, but it does work. Yeah, definitely we can. We can enjoy that from afar, yeah, but other people can look, I'll go to the sauna, sweat, sweat it out yeah, that's, that's so good.
Speaker 2:I like that one too. Like I have a far infrared sauna, I get in there sometimes deep breathing, a little guided meditation yeah, oh, that's right.
Speaker 1:You do have Asana in your space, right? Yeah, tell me a little bit more about some of the practices that you utilize in your space that people can enjoy, ads and blend wellness, now that you've made this transition into this brand.
Speaker 2:Okay, so we still offer Yoni's themes, which that was something that was. I don't think I could have ever stopped because it's so near and dear to me. I, um had been trying to have a baby for a long time and, um, I started doing yoni steams and I did them once a month.
Speaker 2:Someone recommend them to you. Um, it was more like research, and I started doing them for like once a month and for three months. Fourth month I was pregnant. Wow, First and only child at 40. Wow, yeah, and um, so I can't stop doing all these things because it's just like ah, now I love to have my clients come back and go. I'm pregnant now, you know, I'll come see you after.
Speaker 2:Wow, what a powerful personal testimony yeah yeah, and so Yoni Steams Eye on Foot Detox. We do Reiki, chakra balancing. We have the AO scanner, that's a total body scanner and I also have packages that are all together with that. So you can, you know, just do a bunch of different modalities, a bunch of different things that I do, and just kind of cleanse your whole aura, raise your whole vibration and the AL scanner. The reason why I love that is because we can scan you before and I can tell you exactly where you are, your chakras.
Speaker 1:Wow, tell me a little bit about that process. So if I came in for an AO scan, first of all, what is an AO scan?
Speaker 2:An AO scan, an AO scan. An AO scan stands for alpha and omega, so the beginning and the end. And what happens is I will scan your body with biofeedback. So every cell.
Speaker 1:Does it hurt? No, not at all. You don't feel anything, absolutely nothing.
Speaker 2:And so I just scan you. You stand still, you stand up, I just scan your body. What happens is every organ in your body has its own frequency that it resonates. So this scanner is able to number one, know exactly what frequency that organ is supposed to be vibrating at, and then be able to tell you where you're vibrating. That is so cool. So if there's anything you know going on, um, and it measures the chakras like nothing I've ever seen before right.
Speaker 1:So almost like when you go see a reiki practitioner and they're like working on rebalancing your chakras.
Speaker 2:The scan is like quantifying exactly like, instead of just saying like, I feel like it can actually give you like a read out of where your chakras are, exactly that, exactly that.
Speaker 2:So, like I said, it reads your chakras like nothing I've ever seen and I've gone to dozens of different places that are like I read you know, here's an aura portrait and you know, no, it's like, literally, I'm talking about quantified yeah, quantified, I love that. So it uses, like the, the technology of nicole tesla and you know, um, so it it literally is quantum physics in a little app and it and I can, you know, tell you. And what I love about that is we can do the, the ao scan, and then I'll show you exactly where you are and we can do the modalities and then we can go do the scan again and then you can see your progress, like that's my favorite part, wow.
Speaker 1:So can you do that, like in one session? Like would people be able to come in before and see where they are versus where?
Speaker 2:they are when they leave.
Speaker 1:But I love that because sometimes it can be really hard to quantify, you know like, oh, I feel I feel better, but do they really do anything? Yeah, so this way you're actually you're coming out with something tangible that you can take with you.
Speaker 2:Result wise physical evidence I.
Speaker 1:I do too. We're living in a greedy Technology is everything. Okay, so you are doing some events around the AO scans that I know you have a very VIP, limited invitation for, and tell me a little bit about, like what you can expect at one of these events?
Speaker 2:so, um, we're going to host a, an event, that's. You know. I want to invite whoever is in that space of I'm not really sure what I need, not really sure what I want. I see your list of you know services, I'm not really sure.
Speaker 2:And so, um, we're going to do a vibrational wellness experience, and what that means is, and what that means is you'll be able to get a mini scan and I can, um, you know, kind of tell you where you are and um, and then we'll be able to just talk about energy. I want people to feel comfortable with talking about energy, because a lot of times, because we don't know, we just don't people don't say anything about it. You know because you don't know, because of no, you don't want to seem like, well, I bet you don't know, so you just don't say anything, right, and so I've had people all the time like you know, I'll start talking and they'll go. I'm sorry, what's the chakra? And I'm sorry, what's a chakra? And I'm like, oh wait, let me back up.
Speaker 2:There's still a lot of other stuff I need to teach first, and so that's the reason why I decided to start these workshops, so that we can get that conversation going about energy and about how it affects everything. It affects everything. It affects how you deal with the people on your job. It affects how you deal with your. It affects how you deal with you know the people on your job. It affects how you deal with your kids, I deal with your parents, I deal with your loved ones.
Speaker 2:It affects everything you know, everything is energy, you know, and so a lot of times, you know, I hear people you know and it's you know bad luck and I'm like there's no bad luck. There's no bad luck, you know, there's nothing out to get you.
Speaker 1:I agree with that. I think one of my favorite definitions of karma was from an Indian man that I was speaking with and he was telling me how, you know, in his culture it isn't like this good and bad type thing with that karma. Karma is literally just consequence. It's literally an energetic action takes place and an energetic consequence happens, and anything else is really that narrative that we are telling as a human, from our perception.
Speaker 2:we kind of add the good and bad narrative on our own when literally there's just action, consequence and upset Absolutely, and that's another thing that I try to implement in these, because I have so many people that are like, well, you don't understand, this happened to me and this happened to me, and I was like, no, it didn't. The only thing that's happening is right now. Right now is the only thing. If you keep reliving those stories, your body doesn't know that's not happening, so you just keep reminding your body of the same terrible story. Why, why are we doing that?
Speaker 1:like, stop that that's so powerful, because I think we're talking about like therapy and how, yeah, no knock against therapy. But I understand, like for me, personally it's what you're saying. It's telling that story over and over. That's not necessarily personally it's what you're saying. It's telling that story over and over that's not necessarily doing any good.
Speaker 2:Because you're right, like your body has memory and every time you're telling that story you're like kind of reliving that trauma through your body and and it does not know it doesn't know, it's not happening and so, um, that's another reason why this is so important to me, because that I'm helping these people to regulate that, to get rid of that, like get rid of that old narrative that it's gone, I don't really care whatever the story was. If it could and we all have a story like, I don't care what the story is like, we all have one, you know, stop telling yourself that story, though. Get out of that so that you can move on, so that you can actually have the self-love, so you can actually feel the real self-love stop telling yourself that story. That story doesn't matter anymore. All that matters is right now. That's it very true.
Speaker 1:I fully believe all of our power is in the now and we do have the power to rewrite our narratives. And I know that we're talking about energy, how everything is energy, and I know a lot of times, uh, we don't necessarily do things to manage our energy or make sure that we're taking care of our own energy, especially those of us in either a healing space where we're providing one-on-one services to others, which can be draining, or even if we're in a corporate space or just an entrepreneur and you know having to work and kind of grind a lot, especially with like grind culture.
Speaker 2:Um, how do you? Yes?
Speaker 1:yes, Hustle culture, and I know you actually have a, a brand healing from hustle. Um, tell me a little bit about that and sort of how that was born from. You know the, the need to take care of energy.
Speaker 2:Healing from hustle came from um me moving out of different spaces in my life. It's always been a hustle right Entrepreneur. I've always been an entrepreneur. I've never like worked for anyone right.
Speaker 2:And so I'm like I'm 47 years old and I've never had a job. Okay, I get that Sometimes for fun, but most of the time it was just like an ongoing grind. And it started to the older my daughter got and she would come in. You have to go back to work. Are you working again, mommy? You're always working, work, you know. And I was like, ah, and I started to feel like that mom guilt, right of, I'm always doing something and I'm not. And even though I was, you know, still really very hands-on and taking her to all the practices and stuff like that, it made me feel guilty and I started to think like how do I get out of that mentality? And I started to think like how do I get out of that mentality? And then you keep hearing everybody the soft life, soft life, soft life, soft girl, summer. And I'm just like when, where, you know, and that's exactly how I was born, it was just like I have to figure out how to heal from the hustle right Of all of it.
Speaker 2:Something that's glorified. Yeah, and it is and it is, you know. But women aren't. We're not built for that. We're not supposed to do that, right? No, ma'am, you know we're not supposed to do that, and so. I say that all the time, Like biologically yeah all the time like biologically, yeah, we're not built, we're not supposed to hustle, no, we're literally supposed to be the support our bodies create life.
Speaker 1:Right, right, how hard it is to create another human being inside of your body. Why?
Speaker 2:on earth would we want to do anything and then turn around and go back to work? No, I don't want to do that you know.
Speaker 2:Thank you and so, um, healing from Hustle is an online course. I'm also actively adding workshops that are in person for that, because I think that's really important, because it's one thing to do an online course but to be able to be in my presence and I'm able to explain these things, because a lot of times we have questions right to explain these things, because a lot of times we have questions right. So I want to be able to, you know, answer those questions and give you the best. You know that I have the best modalities that I have that have helped me to heal from the hustle and just kind of and it's I'm not even five in person.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it is. It is and I know that you do these really beautiful group experiences too, and I saw pictures. I saw pictures on Google and it looks like such a vibe where there are, like it looks like, multiple stations going on and just a group of women getting together. And sometimes, especially when we get older, it can be hard to make connections and make connections with like-minded people, because I know you and I have both gone through that experience of when you go through awakening and you start changing and you start trying to better yourself, you lose a lot of friends. You do lose a lot of friends on the journey. It's okay. It is okay because there are beautiful souls like you who offer a space where you can connect with like-minded people.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. That's important to me too, because, um, it helps us to know that we're not in this by ourselves, like that's important. That was important when I was on my journey in the first place, you know, because there wasn't any, any place that I could really feel like, okay, you're on this journey too. You know there was, you know there was churches, and no, you know nothing against churches, but that just wasn't the journey that I was on, you know, and so I was just like, hmm, let me figure this out. And that alone helped me to start to even further find myself, because I've, I'd meet these people and I'm like, oh, you're into what that's really cool. Tell me about that. Yeah, and then, and then we just started, you know, this whole vibe, and it just started to be like a community and, um, yeah, it's exactly what I needed. It was exactly what I needed to grow too, you know, and now I'm helping everybody else grow.
Speaker 1:I think everyone's everyone's craving community right now, and especially as women. It can be such a struggle to find like-minded women to connect with, and I think there's sort of this resurgence resurgence might be a good word a resurgence of women wanting to be more feminine yes, yes, that's sort of a backlash to everything that happened with the feminist movement, which again was a movement that was necessary and prompted.
Speaker 1:But you know, everything is sort of like temperance and balance. I feel like we've gone kind of way the other way we can be like men we can do everything.
Speaker 2:I don't think we should do that.
Speaker 1:Yeah and now women are kind of like no, no, I don't want to be like that. I want to be a woman, I want to live like that soft girl life and I feel like your space offers people that opportunity to one connect with like-minded women, um, and let that softer life together and also disconnect.
Speaker 2:I think you told me that like people had their cell phones off and you know it's, it's a way for you to connect with other women but also kind of have like almost like a little mini spa experience exactly because we do yoni steams and I Am Foot Detox and we have a herb bar where you can make your own like bath blends with different salts and herbs I feel so girly and oils, like I have an herb bar for oils you can make your own you know different oils or whatever. So it just ends up being like a super, you know a super good time, like everybody's just kind of like in in the their own heads and you're not on your phone, you're not worried about you know what you're going to make for dinner for the kids.
Speaker 2:You're just like present. Yeah, you're just there and you're just. You know, and I, I love that for us. I love that for us. It's been, it's a good time. That's why we start with the five-day feminine energy reset. We start with that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, tell me a little bit about that, because I know that this is actually something that you are offering for free, for a limited time, exactly, and that's because I really want you to understand why it's so important to be in your feminine energy.
Speaker 2:And once you do the five-day reset, on day five you're like, okay, no.
Speaker 1:So break it down for me what is a feminine energy reset and who is it for?
Speaker 2:It's for anyone who has just been feeling like they're so much in their masculine right. You're doing so many of the jobs that you know men are doing. You know whether it's, um, professionally or at home, or you know it's for anybody who's in that in their it's like masculine era. You know, and, and if you can, just feminine, feminine energy is to receive, right. Masculine energy is the work, work, work, work, work. Feminine energy is to receive, and if you're just always doing the work, work, work, you're not really able to to surrender and receive. And so, um, the reset that I came up with, it was literally stuff that I was doing for myself and I just started going okay, day one I'm going to do this, and I started doing these things and it would be as easy as just one hour cut my phone off and I don't have to do anything for anybody, I don't have to answer the phone, I don't have to answer to anything. And at first it started to make me feel selfish.
Speaker 1:You know how many people don't have that, though. Don't have just one hour in a day to do nothing. Yeah, like that's how go, go, go.
Speaker 2:People are right now I didn't have one hour. I made it a challenge to commit to myself, right, and I didn't do an hour every day. That was just. Like you know, that was one of the things I did. On this day I have a whole hour.
Speaker 1:Let me reframe that Like they don't give themselves an hour, it's not that they don't have it Like trust we claim that we're so go, go, go and busy, but we prioritize what we want. So when I say that, like they don't have it, they just they don't make the time for it. They don't allow themselves, don't make the time for it, they don't allow themselves. So the fact that you could allow yourself that beautiful gift of just being without your phone, what was that like for? You.
Speaker 2:It was hard. At first I had guilt. I was like what if you know clients are calling? What if you know my daughter's school is calling? What, if you know? I had all this guilt at first, I had all this anxiety about it at first, and then I just started to like go, you know, I had all this guilt at first, I had all this anxiety about it at first, and then I just started to like go, you know, I deserve this. I I'm not gonna worry about, I'll worry about whatever is going on once I'm done. But I'm gonna give myself this hour to not focus on anything but me. And did people die? No, was there a?
Speaker 1:catastrophe. Nobody died. The world kept turning. After you gave yourself a birth and I was so surprised. And I was so surprised, genuinely right, I was like wait, no fire is to put out. Okay, I can do this for myself.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh. And then, honestly, the next. Okay, so then I started doing this every week, right? So every week was another challenge, Every day was another challenge, and the next week after that, one hour. I just like dropped my daughter off at school and like went to the spa all day. That sounds like my kind of day. Yeah, I was. Like I'm just going to put my phone in this locker Great it's right here, and I didn't feel any guilt whatsoever.
Speaker 2:I just like hung out at this spa and got in all of the whirlpools and all of the saunas and just like hung out there all day long with no guilt. And when I got my phone back, guess what? Nobody died. It was still okay. It was still okay. And so I I say that to say we always are thinking that we are the, you know, we are the glue. No, I, I get that we are the glue. But there's also at times that we are the glue. No, I get that we are the glue. But there's also times that we don't have to worry about. We've already done the work, we've already put these people in positions to take care of themselves. Why are we still over here micromanaging? Right, that was one of the things that just really I just woke up and was like well, here we go. I'm making a whole course out of this because it's completely changed my life. So I just can tell.
Speaker 1:I can tell just in the way that you glow when you recall the things that you do for yourself during this challenge girl, I'm ready to sign up because I need a glow like that.
Speaker 2:It was it was, it was amazing, and and and. Every challenge is different, right, so I'll challenge myself to different right, so I'll challenge myself to meet somebody. I'll challenge myself to meet a new friend, right, and I'm like, okay, you're outside today, you know, whether I'm at the grocery store or doing something with my kid, or whatever. I'm like challenge yourself to meet a new friend today, you know, and I'm, you know, be with my kid. And I'm like we're standing in line and somebody starts talking. I'm like, okay, I'm Kim and you know, and I'm like, challenge challenge accepted, you know.
Speaker 1:And what's the absolute worst that can happen? What's the worst that's ever happened to you?
Speaker 2:nothing, nothing well, my, my daughter did end up meeting another little girl and like that became like my summer once, like where I had to like always take my daughter to this other little girl's house.
Speaker 1:Your daughter made like a bff yeah that was like the worst that happened.
Speaker 2:Like I was like, okay, can mommy want to go do some other things? I had other challenges right. And she's like, well, no, I just really want to hang out.
Speaker 1:I'm like oh, that is the power. I love that you told that story, because that's literally the power of just setting intention to make connection, and that's so needed in this world. Like to just go out and make connection, even if you're just talking to the person I was going to say checking you out at the grocery store, but they don't check you out at the grocery store, even if you're just talking to the checkout attendant at self-checkout. You know what I mean Just making a conversation with strangers, because you never know what connection is. Just making a conversation with strangers?
Speaker 2:Yeah, because you never know what connections can come, and it just kept going. And it's always something different, though it's try something new, it's try a new food, it's, you know, it's always something different when I'm doing my own challenges too, because I want to keep it to where, because that, like I said, that feminine, that's feminine energy, that making connections, that's feminine energy that making connections, that's feminine energy.
Speaker 2:Yeah yes, so it's all. So it's all do something new. You know that's that's feminine energy, and so I always try to make something, do something else, so that I can continue to connect to that, because that's really important to me. That's honestly the most important know.
Speaker 2:And it's such a human need, it's a basic human need that in this digital day and age gets neglected a lot, oh yeah, yeah, because we're always on our phones, we're always staring at a screen and we don't ever get to like disconnect with people. And that's why I love these workshops, because I'm like, put these phones down, let me show you something. I'm going to show you honestly like where you could be if you just disconnect for a little bit disconnect.
Speaker 2:Get in this, get in this feminine energy space and yeah, and you'll start to like love exactly where you are in the moment, and even if it's not ideal, you don't have to literally, it doesn't have to be perfect for you to love it. That's that's. That's where I'm at.
Speaker 1:It doesn't have to be perfect for you to love it you know that that's a good quote does not have to be perfect for you to love it and you can love the journey. Yeah, I do, I'm still growing. I think to stop growing is like death.
Speaker 1:You know what I mean, absolutely so I am excited about this challenge and, yeah, you bring up so many great points and I I challenge anybody listening to this to take Kim's advice even before they sign up for the challenge and just start making connection out in the world and see what powerful things can happen. But for anybody who does want to sign up for the five-day Feminine Energy Reset, that's something that we're going to link in the description of this podcast with a special invitation for anybody who is looking to sink more into their feminine energy, or anyone who has been caught in hustle mode grind, grind, grind mode and you said a beautiful word earlier receiving. Like how beautiful is it to receive and how often do we allow ourselves to receive?
Speaker 2:not often, definitely not. That's why this is why you have to do the reset. You have to. It puts you in receiving mode receive all the good. I mean mean it's receiving joy. How often is it that you get a compliment and you're like you receive it? Yeah, people don't do that anymore. You give someone a compliment and they immediately compliment you and you're like you know, sometimes you just want to soak that in. Somebody tells you you look great today. You're like thank you.
Speaker 1:I sure do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, thank you, I put a lot of effort into this. I appreciate my point exactly. So, yeah, I mean, but we don't do that guilty I'm, I'm definitely. We immediately just go, oh I like your hair, or like, yeah, we deflect. We try not to put that on ourselves. Receive, receive, receive, receive, receive. Bask in that compliment.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. I love it. This is all such good stuff, kim. Looking forward to the five-day feminine energy reset and also to the vibrational wellness experience. So this is something that's limited time only because it's super valuable to be able to, you know, quantify these energy scans. So if that's something that you're interested in like I am a quantum physics nerd, I'm a quantum healing nerd, so I am all over this and if you are looking for again, connection, like-minded people, but also a very cool cutting edge way to be able to experience healing and get a body scan, I know that's something that you're going to be offering for a limited time, and we'll link to that in the description, too Beautiful.
Speaker 1:So before I let you go, I do want to ask you one thing that I ask everybody. Okay, I want you to pretend that this podcast is going out to every person in the world and they can hear your message. What is something that you would like everybody listening to, to know that you're not?
Speaker 2:stuck. You are not a tree. To know that you're not stuck, you are not a tree. You have the ability to move. You have the ability to be somebody different and you just have to open yourself up to that. I try to help people to actually find their purpose. So you just got to find your purpose. Crack yourself open and stop being the same beautiful.
Speaker 1:You have the ability to do that in any given moment in time. Like you said, the now all your powers, right it's right here right now beautiful well.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for joining me today, kim. Go check out zen blend wellness if you are in the local dfw. They are located in Arlington. Also, check out the description links to join the five-day Feminine Reset Challenge and any upcoming events to connect and get the scans and connect with like-minded communities. Thanks so much, Kim. Thank you. Thanks for listening to the DFW Conscious Creators Podcast. Thanks for listening to the DFW Conscious Creators Podcast. If you're feeling inspired to share your story, you can apply to be a guest or join our community in person at Ascension Studios. Check out the links below.